The 10 Stages of Recommending A Book

This post was inspired when one of my friends who has been following my blog since it started and finally finished college which meant she was able to start reading non-school related books! She sent me a TBR list with so many of my recommendations and it made my heart soar. So I made this list, which I think a lot of bookish people can relate to.

1. You find THE book

The book that makes you cry and laugh and scream and cry again. It’s so relatable it could reach down into the soul of a snail and that snail would tearfully say, “I don’t know how that book did it but that reading experience was so universal, yet so unique. Every word was beautiful and spoke to me on a personal snail-level. It makes my young snail-heart proud.” You want everyone to read it but you also just want to keep its perfection hidden for yourself. Ultimately, you decide that it needs to be shared with the world or their is no blog post.

2. You find THE person to share THE book with

Who should be the first person you tell? Should it be the snail? Should it be your sister? Should it be everyone and you just make a blog because you’ve been meaning to do it forever and this is the book that’s good enough to be the book that starts your blogging career? Should it be this adorable GIF cat?

3. Describing the book

You tell them that you have an amazing book for them. They say ‘cool! What is it about?’ Suddenly, all of the feelings about this amazing book come pouring out at once as…complete silence. What is it about? No sentences can describe what it’s about except the ones that already make up the book. ‘It’s good!’ you promise. Please read it.

4. Dealing with the disappointment when they don’t read it

Not every book is for every person (no matter how much you’re freaking sure it will be) but that won’t stop you from always, always standing by your recommendations. This won’t get as violent as the GIF above (mostly) but to be safe, they should probably just listen to your bookish wisdom.

5. The ultimate joy when someone reads your recommendations

Your recommendations? They looked at all the advice out in the world, all of the other bookish sources that are at their disposal, and went with a book that you recommended. Not only do you feel so special, you are so happy for the book. It’s growing up and finally getting the recognition it deserves.

6. Anxiety at the possibility that the worst could happen– they might not like it

You’re absolutely sure of your favorite books, however, as much as you like to deny it, this book might not be for everyone. The worst could happen and that leads to much anxiety. If they don’t like it, you’ll feel personally responsible.

7. The jealousy

You wish you were reading the book for the first time. You’re actually jealous of anyone that is! You miss the times when the book was new and those beautiful words were striking your soul. Will the re-read be the same? Will the second time reading the themes be just as good?

8. The reader likes your recommendation

Why did you ever doubt? THEY LOVED IT OF COURSE! As with the snail, the words spoke to their soul. They feel just as positive as you. The amount of success you feel is unparalleled.

9. The discussion!

Another person to discuss the book with! You get to talk about all the little details of the book. You get to ask them every question you wanted an answer to and they bring up questions that never occurred to you. The discussion is the second best thing to actually reading the book!

10. They recommend the book

You’re so proud. Your recommendation has now become their recommendation. The beauty of the book will continue to spread as well as the wonderful discussions that come with it. Feel proud! You introduced the world to more literature and therefore, you just made the world a better place.

Let’s chat! Did you relate to any of these stages? Were there any stages that I missed? What books have you had success recommending? Mine was a book that I actually haven’t read yet (but it’s on my shelf and I really want to get to it!) It was Strange The Dreamer by Laini Taylor.

This post was really fun to write and I hope you had fun reading. Thanks for visiting!


About Leah

Hi! I'm Leah. I like books, TV, and plants. I love writing about it all. Earnest Hemmingway said "Write hard and clear about what hurts," and I aspire to do just that. Thanks for reading!

20 Responses

  1. Haha! This is a fun post. And so true! Especially step 6 – I have a tendency to gush when I really liked a book, and when I recommend it I start doubting myself. Will they really like it? Maybe I didn’t think about their particular taste when I recommended it! The horror!
    Well, either that or I start talking too much, trying to make the book sound as good as I think it is, and it all comes out in a long-winded, boring rush. lol

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  2. Angela @ Angela's Library

    Wow – I can’t believe how relatable that was, haha. Especially the “Anxiety” stage – every time I recommend a book I go through that period of hard-core doubt, wondering if my friend is going to crush my soul by telling me the book wasn’t as good as I made it out to be.

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